by IAmSavvy | Sep 11, 2022 | Empowered Ethos, Solo Living
Anya is new to the solo lifestyle. She has been living in her apartment now for four months. She is an hourly worker (an involuntary part-time worker) that struggles to make ends meet. She was working two jobs – one job she liked the industry and the other job she disliked. She was delighted when the job that showed potential offered her more hours. She could work one job and let the other one go. That’s when events took a turn for the worse.
Without warning, the company let her go. Anya was angry; this company knew she worked two jobs. She didn’t understand why they would offer her more hours, allow her to quit her second job, and then fire her. She called her friend Maria for support.
Anya: Why? This isn’t fair! I didn’t do anything wrong! They knew I had two jobs. Why would they wait until I quit my second job and then fire me for no reason? I know that the only thing that matters is finding another job. I’m trying hard not to freak out, but…
Maria: I’m so proud of how much you’ve grown. Yes, not too long ago, you wouldn’t be holding it together like you are now.
Anya: I am unemployed. After I pay my rent, I have no income or savings. I’m not going to make it.
Maria: It’s funny because I was thinking about you the other day. When I was your age, I used to be exactly the same. Sometimes, in the middle of succeeding, I would convince myself that I was failing miserably.
Anya: I am failing! I can’t fix this in 30 days! I have nothing!
Maria: That’s what you said about finding an apartment, but you found one in 30 days. Remember when we talked about that book, The Power of Now? You are terrifying yourself with nasty images of things that might happen but are not happening now. So let me tell you what is happening right now:
- You took the brave step to live on your own.
- You have paid your rent for 4 months.
- You’ve successfully lived on your own for 120 days.
- Your fridge is full.
- Your utilities and insurance are paid.
- You have your own transportation.
- Your gas tank is full.
- You’re in a new relationship with a man who loves and supports you.
- You have the support of family and friends.
- Even in this economy, it’s never taken you more than 30 days to get a job.
Don’t you see? You are succeeding. Think about it. Mathematically, all you achieved shouldn’t have been possible on the low wages you’ve received, but it has. Every bill has been paid, and every financial challenge has been met.

Anya, financially, you are a miracle in motion. You don’t know what will happen in 30 days, but RIGHT NOW, you have everything you need. Focus on that.
Anya: Wow, you’re good at this.
Maria: You don’t have to get up early tomorrow to go to the job that causes you stress. Put on your favorite jammies, prepare a great meal, and put on your favorite show. Play the game today, so you can create your own game tomorrow. Relax, open your laptop, and start applying for jobs.
Anya had laughter in her voice when she said, “Yeah, I think I will.” She is struggling with keeping her focus. The more she practices and brings her mind into the space of Now, the easier it becomes.
This is a baby step to The Power of Now. If someone is in a state of fear and they don’t know how to meditate, telling them to shut off their mind won’t work. For Anya, learning to focus on Now gave her peace. She can look for a job without spiraling into anger, depression, or fear.
THIS ISN’T GOING TO WORK FOR ME –
I’M GOING TO FAIL AND LOSE EVERYTHING!
OK, let’s deal with that. Maria has “failed.” Why do you think she can teach Anya? It’s because she’s been there firsthand. At 50, Maria lost her job and got evicted from her home.
She was angry, humiliated, and terrified. Why? Maria had an image of herself as a superwoman. She was too proud to ask for help, she was afraid of what other people would think, and she made many mistakes that led to her eviction. She stayed in complete resistance to her reality.
Maria spiraled. At that point, she did what many people do. She jumped into “positive thinking” like it was a magic wand that would wave away all her troubles. One night, she woke and knew this battle was lost. She could prepare to move or resist to the end and have the police come and set her things out on the lawn. She went with the former; it was a good choice.
When she stopped resisting, everything she needed was provided to move from her home. It was awful. She blamed God for not showing up and saving her. Over the coming weeks, she had to admit this had nothing to do with God. She made choices that were 100% ego-driven. She lost that battle and went on to find a new job and a new place to stay in less than 90-days.
With an eviction on her record, she was able to find a place to stay. In six months, she paid what she owed on the eviction to clear her debt. It took three years before she was able to move back to the neighborhood she loved.
Chance and circumstance happen to us all. No one leads a charmed life immune to challenges.
- Michael Jordan’s father was murdered
- Martha Stewart went to prison for five months
- Johnny Depp had financial and marital troubles
- Halle Berry married an alleged sex addict who was repeatedly unfaithful
- Jim Carrey and Halle Berry were both homeless before becoming celebrities
- Oprah was sued in a public format that lasted for six weeks
We admire people like this not because they lead charmed lives; it’s because when adversity shows up, they take the hit and bounce back. That’s what makes them (and you) a superwoman/superman.
There is a possibility that you will not get your finances together in time to save your home. OK, what do you do now? Are you ruined? Is your life over? No, that’s what your ego is telling you. The truth is you had a setback. If you stay fixated on situations that are out of your control, you disempower yourself. Empower yourself by asking, “What CAN I do right now?” Then, get to work.
Paraphrasing Eckhart Tolle, life isn’t here to make things easy. It’s here to challenge you so you wake up.
Stay tuned to find out what happens next with our young friend, Anya.
Do you have a question or concern? Do you have a technique that helps you through stressful times that you want to share? Please post it below.
by IAmSavvy | Sep 4, 2022 | Review
It’s Labor Day! Laborers, this one is for you! After working too many hours with a lot of stress, may I make a suggestion? Laugh! Laughter is the best medicine. Put on your PJs, and get your favorite comfort food. Enjoy this list of binge-worthy Netflix shows that will make you laugh.
I don’t know about you, but after working a 60-plus hour workweek, I want work to be the furthest thing from my mind. Here’s a curated list of 20 years of laughter currently streaming on Netflix.
Released: June 1986
Time: 1hr. / 38 mins.
Starring: Matthew Broderick, Alan Ruck, Jennifer Grey
This character was the hero of many teenagers in the 80s. Most of us dreamed of having a fabulous day as Ferris experienced. Wiggling out of school and outsmarting our parents, teachers, and the principal is something we wish we could have experienced as teens. Ferris and his friends take a day to enjoy all the finer things in life. The story is summed up in the best quote from the movie.
Best Quote: Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Men In Black
Released: MIB – July 1997 / MIIB – July 2002 / MIB3 – May 2012
Time: MIB – 1hr. /38 mins./ MIIB – 1hr. /28 mins./ MIB3 – 1hr. /46 mins.
Starring: Tommy Lee Jones, Will Smith, Josh Brolin
Steven Spielberg is a rare talent who creates sequels that improve with each series. If you haven’t watched Men In Black in a while, it’s a binge-worthy series that can take your mind off your current troubles.
Best Quotes:
MIB: And, uh, oh – hire a decorator to come in here quick, ’cause… DAMN.
MIIB: K: Why don’t you go get me some coffee? J: Sure. How do ya take it? Black? Couple cubes of kiss my a$$?
MIB3 A miracle is something that seems impossible but happens anyway.
Austin Powers in Goldmember
Released: July 2002
Time: 2 hrs. / 27 mins.
Starring: Mike Myers, Beyoncé, Michael Caine
It’s like watching a James Bond parody gone horribly and hilariously wrong. If you lived through the 70s, you’d see many blasts from the past, like ginormous afros, pimpmobile, and psychedelic clothing. It will take you back and make you giggle. There were a lot of “shag-worthy” innuendoes in this movie. This is the cleanest “best quote” I could find.
Best Quote: MOLE! Bloody mole! We’re not supposed to talk about the bloody mole, but there’s a bloody mole winking me right in the face! I’m gonna chop it off, cut it up, and make some guaca-moley!
The Bucket List
Released: December 2007
Time: 2 hrs. / 29 mins.
Starring: Morgan Freeman, Jack Nicholson, Sean Hayes
Two strangers become friends as they face, cancer and the knowledge that their lives will come to an end soon. They decide to go on an adventure together to cross items off their bucket list. The bucket list is a list of things you’ve always wanted to do before you “kick the bucket.” This movie is a breathtaking journey that two people share as they ponder the greater questions of life. It’s a movie that will make you laugh, and make you think. When you watch, you can ask yourself these two questions.
Best Quote:
1. Have you found joy in your life?
2. Has your life brought joy to others?
Kevin Hart: I’m A Grown Little Man
Released: February 2009
Time: 1hr. / 9 mins.
Starring: Kevin Hart
A man that needs no introduction. If you’re a Kevin Hart fan, many of his standups and movies are available on Netflix. Get your laugh on. There were a lot of moments in his standup that will make anyone LOL, but I tried to pick the quote that was the least raunchy.
Best Quote: I know I’m not a fighter; that’s why I carry a whistle…You may win the fight, but you ain’t going to hear s*** tomorrow.
Despicable Me and Despicable Me 2
Released: Despicable Me – July 2010 / Despicable Me 2 – July 2013
Time: Despicable Me – 1hr./58 mins. / Despicable Me 2 – 2hr./23 mins.
Starring: Steve Carell, Kristen Wiig, Pierre Coffin,
Love, loyalty, leadership, and adventure all rolled into one movie. Gru is the villain who ultimately saves the girls and leads his minions to save the world. Sometimes, bad guys make the best good guys. This is a computer-animated movie that will bring out the kid in you. With this movie, the second installment was better than the first. From Despicable Me 2, we get a memorable quote that will make you laugh and a great song that will make you tap your toes.
Best Quote:
Despicable Me 2: Lipstick Taser!
Best Song:
Despicable Me 2: Happy by Pharrell Williams
Nailed It!
Released: March 2018
Time: 33 mins. / 6 Seasons
Starring: Nicole Byer, Jacques Torres, Wes Bahr
Nailed It is a bake-off competition where amateur, wanna-be bakers try to recreate sculpted cakes that are masterpieces. If you know nothing about baking, the masterpieces look so simple to create. That’s probably what the contestants (who barely know their way around a kitchen) thinks. They quickly find out that it’s not easy at all. It will bring a tear to your eye as the contestant presents culinary disasters to the judges. The good news is there’s a winner of every episode that walks away with $10,000.
The Mitchells vs. the Machines
Released: April 2021
Time: 2hrs. / 54 mins.
Starring: Michael Rianda, Abbi Jacobson, Maya Rudolph
This movie had me laughing out loud in the first three minutes. When you watch this movie, you should play a game of how many other movies plays a parody in the show. I counted at least 10. This story reminded me of the Croods. I saw the Eye of Sauron, Storm Troopers, and Flying Monkeys, just to name a few. This is a computer-animated movie that will make you route for the underdog. It also teaches the important lesson that being weird is not a weakness; it’s a strength.
Best Quote: Don’t let the world make you normal…
Relax and appreciate the peace of this Labor Day weekend. It’s the last holiday of the summer season. Enjoy. Do you have a favorite movie and quote that is streaming on Netflix? Please share it below.
These are movies streaming on Netflix; watch them before they expire. Yes, a Netflix subscription is required to watch these movies.
by IAmSavvy | Aug 28, 2022 | Book Review, Empowered Ethos
eckhart tolle’s
The Power of Now
Spirituality, Psychology
Living on your own can be exhilarating. It’s empowering to control and create your own life choices. Sometimes, it’s a double-edged sword. When times are tough, we worry. We find ourselves lying awake at 3:00 a.m., wondering, “What’s going to happen to me? Will I make it through this rough patch? I’m in trouble; what am I going to do?!”
If you’re not careful, panic and fear take over, and you drown in a sea of “one damn thing after another.” The Power of Now is a roadmap that can lead you out of pain and suffering.
The Power of Now is set up in a Q & A format. It explains the origins of pain, fear, and suffering. It gives you actionable steps to transform dark moments into a state of clarity that will lead you to your path of peace.
There is a reason this book has sold 5 million copies, and Eckhart’s YouTube Channel has 1.5 million subscribers – his teachings work.
Post-pandemic, I was searching for a job. It’s baffling, but it became harder to find a job during The Great Resignation. As I was running out of money, I would lie awake wondering how I would find a job while fighting sexism, racism, and ageism. I had images of living out of my car in a couple of weeks!
Eckhart’s teachings worked. I was able to calm my mind, find clarity, find peace, and find a job. The Power of Now has changed the lives of millions.
During an interview, Oprah said, “It [The Power of Now] is always by my bedside. No matter where I am, I carry it with me”. Oprah is one of the world’s most powerful solo dwellers. She sees the power in this book. Once you read it, I hope you will too.
Eckhart Tolle is a teacher who walks the walk. He has experienced pain, suffering, and homelessness. His book, The Power of Now, is a tool that will help you on your spiritual journey.
Paperback: 236 pages
7 CDs: 7 hours and 30 minutes
Audio Download 7 hours, 30 minutes
Yes, the book is available on Amazon, but I am linking to Eckhart’s website. If you don’t feel this book is for you, you may find something on his site you find helpful. The Savvy Solo doesn’t receive a commission; we have no affiliation with Amazon or Eckhart Tolle.
by IAmSavvy | Aug 21, 2022 | Finance
CAUTION: This may be an uncomfortable conversation that may trigger some of you. It may make you defensive. This article isn’t to stand in judgment of anyone. It is an eye-opening account of where gig work is headed in this nation, and what you need to do to build a sustainable income that grows.
The Party Line: Be Your Own Boss! Work On Your Own Schedule! You’re In Control!
Notice they never promise you’ll make enough to cover your bills.
Jada became very disillusioned with Corporate America. She was in so much pain that she didn’t care about the consequences. She just decided that she wanted out – NOW, and she quit her job. She did not have a plan, so she thought she could make quick cash working for a rideshare company.
Surprisingly, signing up with this company wasn’t as easy as she thought. Of course, she didn’t have to provide a resume, but she had to complete an application and a background check, her car had to pass an inspection, and it was a two-week process to get through onboarding.
Are You Really Your Own Boss?
Jada thought to herself, “Funny, for a company that says, I’m my own boss, there sure are a lot of rules I have to follow. The company “randomly” asked her to pull over, take a selfie and send it to the company to prove it was her that was driving.
She was “randomly” selected so many times she wondered if she was randomly selected or racially profiled. The company would freeze her account until she sent the image. She heard stories of accounts being frozen or deactivated if they refused too many rides.
Where Jada lives, the current rate is $0.96 per mile, and the average trip is 5.41 miles. So, Jada earned an average of $5.19 per ride. She is at the mercy of the client to give her a tip to make a difference. Ask yourself, would you give someone a $5 – $10 tip for a service that cost 5 bucks? Another fun fact, rideshare companies don’t pay for the miles it takes to get to the client. Jada can drive 12 miles, without getting paid, to pick up a fare traveling less than six miles. Nice!
Jada learned there was no security in this role. If she put all her eggs in one basket financially, she could wake up to find her account deactivated. She wasn’t the boss; the company that owned the rideshare platform was in control.
Jada found that gig work was just as frustrating as the hourly wages she left behind. Jada was working on someone else’s platform. She didn’t own it, and the owner reserves the right to change the rules (to their advantage) anytime they see fit.
Are You Picking Your Own Hours? What happened to work-life balance?
Here at The Savvy Solo, we have interviewed some drivers that work at Uber. In our city, they congregate at the airports because that’s where they get the best fares. The drivers that had larger vehicles commanded more wages. If they were lucky, they could make $200 before noon, and they were done with their day. With Uber, if you don’t have a car (or want a larger vehicle to make more money), you can rent one. We met other drivers with compact cars that made money, but they worked 16 – 18 hours a day picking up fares. So, where is the work-life balance?
Apps like Instawork allow you to pick up shifts doing hospitality, food service, or warehouse work. It’s difficult to get the premium shifts you want, so you could be forced to take what’s left over, or you may get nothing at all.
Isolation – The irony of autonomy
When there’s something weird, and it don’t look good. Who you gonna call? NOBODY! If you thought you were fighting a faceless corporation, try to argue for your rights with an email or automated system. There are no unions, and there are no systems of checks and balances. So, your choices are to deal with it or leave.

Please remember we are describing one gig work category involving physical labor and little work experience. Because there are more laborers than jobs, companies are lowering their wage and raising the requirements to exclude more workers. This dynamic is beginning to spread through all forms of gig work.
Freelancers
This type of work does offer some advantages. You can sign up with multiple platforms. You can have multiple income streams. Your expertise can command higher pay, and you can find contract work that lasts for months or years.
With Uber, god bless em’; they will let you keep the whole $0.96 per mile you make. Platforms like Upwork take 5% – 20% of what you make. Is it fair? Probably not, but I rather make $480 than $5.19 any day.
Are you setting your own pay rates?
Let’s research white paper writers on Upwork. This is a premium writing style that demands expertise, it’s a costly undertaking. At the minimum, the charge to create a white paper is $3,000 because it takes 4 – 6 weeks to create a white paper. White papers entail gathering info from the client, research, interviews, first drafts, approvals, etc. You cannot deliver a compelling white paper in a week. That is an unreasonable demand that is probably expected by the company.
Researching white paper writers on Upwork, I found Galina, who charges $1,000 to create white papers. She claims she has 12 years’ experience. There’s no way she should charge so little for such massive work. This is the unfortunate side effect of gig work. It pits worker against worker. Out of desperation, one worker sets a rate far below the value just to get the job. Now, everyone is in a mad race to the bottom dollar.
Are you in control?
What you are paying for is the Upwork branding, their trustworthiness, and traffic that allows you to connect with businesses that need a particular service. Here is the rub with freelance work, you have to put yourself out there. Like any business marketing yourself and getting your name out there is your responsibility.
You have to market and brand yourself. You need to go beyond passively slapping your picture and rates on a platform. Building relationships, networking, repeat business, and referrals are your life. It’s why people that use platforms like Upwork or Shopify never see a dime. No one is going to hire you if they don’t know you exist.
On the other hand, you work for your client. You believe you can work whenever you want, eh? Well, your client begs to differ. You are on their timetable. You must meet deadlines, and create impeccable work. No matter how demanding your client is, your attitude must remain professional.
Because one crabby, unreasonable client can ruin your reputation.
Receiving a low rating will make it difficult, but not impossible to get more work. So, try to keep a level head. While your clients interview you, you must interview them. Or like with a salaried position, you’ll end up working long hours for unreasonable pay.
Does gig work offer the freedom and autonomy you were looking for, or did Corporate America just build a better mouse trap?
Here is an article titled, “The Uberization Of Work: Pros And Cons Of The Gig Economy” that is a must-read. It’s pre-pandemic, but it still brings up valid points.

Gig work means a corporation doesn’t have to hold any responsibility for its employees. They don’t have to provide health insurance, 401Ks, unemployment benefits, or taxes. If you think about it, it must be like Christmas time for big business.
It’s only a matter of time before they look at full-time employees and say, “Why do I need you? I can replace you with an employee that will do twice the work, for half the pay, and I don’t have to pay them benefits.” That’s company ethics. As you see, it’s already in the works as Google has replaced half their staff with gig workers. Everyone loses. Well, not everyone, the house (company) always wins because it’s their game.
Side Hustles
This is an inspiring story that describes the exception, not the norm. The title is a bit deceiving; it’s just a hook to get you to read the story. Here are the important points that aren’t found in the title.
- She began her online business in June 2020.
- By working on her business, every day, she earned a following and a large company found her and asked her to work for a client
- While she was building 100 videos, she hustled every day on Tik Tok
- Her first launch was in November 2020 – she earned $15,000
- In October 2021, 15 months later, she made $100,000 in a single day
This is a step in the right direction. A side hustle is a fancy name for a second job. However, since this is a job of your own choosing, we hope you are picking something you like to do. Remember, this story is the exception, not the norm. Social media can speed your path, but it takes hard work and risk to make a side hustle profitable.
If you’re doing it right, there are many benefits. It’s your creative path. You can show your expertise and build something you are proud to share with the world and make money. That is the true spirit of entrepreneurship. You get paid if you share your knowledge and solve someone else’s problems. Everyone wins.
Here are some tips.
- Create a website. Own your process. Do not put your info on a platform you do not control.
- Social media can help get you started but do not leave your business in the hands of someone that can take away your income with a single change of an algorithm.
- Build an email list. Your email list is yours; Google can’t take it away from you.
Sometimes, we work gig work because we feel the most valuable thing we own is that which is outside of ourselves. For example, Jada picked Uber because she felt the only thing valuable about her was her car, so she chose Uber.
The biggest takeaway from this story is how Anna made $100,000. She made it by teaching. Post-pandemic, teaching is one of the most profitable online ventures you can invest in.
We’ll, talk about it in Part IV of this series – Self-Employed, Solopreneurs, and Entrepreneurs.
by IAmSavvy | Aug 14, 2022 | Empowered Ethos, Wellness
Did you know that being stuck and being trapped are two different things? Maybe you don’t like your job. You feel stuck because the opportunity you’re looking for hasn’t arrived. “How do I endure this soul-sucking job until I find something else?” you ask. You work on what you can change right now. Read Maria’s true story of overcoming conflict and staying out of spiritual traps.
It was a good day
Maria had a great life. She was a manager of a leasing consultant firm, allowing her to live in a luxury apartment complex at a deeply discounted rate. She received quarterly bonuses that she used to buy lavish gifts for herself and her family. Life was perfect.
The honeymoon phase of a cycle is where people are the most complacent because they think it will last forever. The part of you that worries incessantly is quiet. This is the easiest time to exercise your spiritual muscle. Financially, this is a time to save for a rainy day.
Practice patience when life hands you little inconveniences like being stuck in traffic. Start a journal of positive actions. This is the best time to learn meditation and advance your spiritual practices. Here are some teachers that share different processes of dealing with troubled times.
Making mountains out of molehills
Maria likes the freedom that money provides. However, she fixated on minor annoyances. Her boss is too demanding. Her team is always scamming ways to get out of work. The residents were
constantly complaining over things that don’t make sense. “Sir, everyone’s apartment is white; you cannot paint the walls black.” Ma’am, we have no proof that your neighbor is stealing your paper. You can call the corporate office, but you can’t sue us because we won’t hire a private investigator.”
Maria is a person that struggled with negativity in her past. It’s easy to focus on good things when everything is going well. It’s a little more challenging at this stage. This is where the negative part of your brain wakes up. It’s trying to take hold of your thought process.
Unfortunately, Maria doesn’t have a spiritual process that helps her deal with troubled times. She tries to suppress her negative feelings. Feelings always find a way to come to the surface. The more Maria complains, the more Maria finds to complain about. Her suffering is taking a life of its own and picking up speed.
Out of the frying pan and into the fire
Maria despises her job, and it shows. She is constantly battling her bosses. She has a high employee turnover rate. Her staff isn’t well-trained, so they cannot fill their housing quotas.
The quarterly bonuses stop coming. To Maria’s surprise, she got fired. She is no longer an employee, so her rent immediately goes to market value – $2,200/month.
Maria didn’t make the best choice; she made a desperate choice. She really doesn’t want another job because she can’t stand the thought of encountering another “toxic culture.” Instead of facing her issues (dealing with conflict, life’s curve balls, and challenging people), she looks for the easy out. She hastily comes up with a plan that sets her up for failure. “I’ll be my own boss; I’ll do gig work,” Maria says. She signs up with one of the large share-ride companies, even though her instincts told her it was a mistake.
Maria is stuck in a negative loop. She is stuck because she is creating the loop. Maria tries to bring peace by controlling the uncontrollable (other people). The only way she can eliminate her suffering is by changing herself.
Be careful of the spiritual trap
Her idealization of gig work was lost when she picked up her first passenger. Maria was an introvert who loathed driving. The share-ride experience rolled up everything she hated most in one job. Maria quickly realized that working for this company 24/7; still won’t cover her rent. It took less than a month before every credit card she had was maxed out; she was in trouble.
Should she pray? When we feel powerless, it’s comforting to think that something bigger than us controls our lives. That’s the Achilles’ heel of prayer. You put your power in someone else’s hands, which means you’ll never find your power. Now, Maria is trapped because she believes someone else is holding her in a bad situation (or unwilling to help her get out of it).
From a state of worry and lack, Maria dives into concepts like The Work, Mindfulness, and The Power of Now.
Because Maria has never practiced calming herself, she can’t quiet her mind. She explodes in rage and screams…
I could give a flying fig about this superstitious BS. God help me! I need money now!
On the first of the month, Maria received her eviction notice.
Maria starts looking for a job. She seeks organizations that can offer rent relief. In desperation, she sells a ring she’s had since she was a teenager and looks for things in her home that she can sell to come up with her rent money.
It’s too late. Calm settles over Maria as she accepts that this battle is lost. She makes plans to move on.
Hindsight is 20/20
Maria lives in her parent’s basement. It took her less than 90 days to find a job and move out of her parent’s home. After almost a year of soul searching, she was ready to take responsibility for her mistakes.
- When Maria had a job, she lived beyond her means, lived off credit cards, and didn’t put away a percentage of her salary into savings.
- She asks herself if her perceptions of her “toxic” work environment were real or imagined.
- She knew in her gut that the shared ride was a bad idea on many levels.
- Most people who live solo life are fiercely independent. They think they have to do it all, or it’s a sign of weakness.
- She was too proud to reach out for help.
- She wouldn’t apply for unemployment.
- Her ego was bruised, which is the reason she didn’t look for another job.
- She waited too long to look for a job that would cover her bills.
- She was embarrassed to admit her setback.
- She was too proud to ask her family and friends for help.
When we’re suffering, it’s challenging to see the reality of our situation. When Maria screamed, ” God help me! I need money now!” she wasn’t really looking for money. She was looking for what she thought money would bring her – peace.
Did Maria live happily ever after? Yes and no. Maria found a job that paid her bills. She realized until she found the opportunity she wanted; she would have to learn to make peace with where she was right now. The apartment she is living in isn’t the ideal place, but for now, she accepts that this is her home.
She faced three of the toughest years of her life. She reached out to a therapist for help. She embraced her life and learned to overcome uncomfortable situations instead of resisting them.
The Cycle Continues
Maria accepted a job making more money than she’s ever had in her working career. She paid off her debts and moved into a stunning apartment she loved.
Maria finds herself in the honeymoon phase again. Her spiritual journey over the past three years will help her overcome obstacles quicker when they return.
“God” is not a magic genie here to solve our problems, and spiritual maturity does not absolve us from the hardships of our mundane life. Don’t run from or resist difficult times; embrace them. Our spiritual practice helps us navigate difficult times without experiencing the extreme suffering we cause ourselves. Suffering is the spiritual teacher that transforms us from victims to victors.
Welcome to the Empowered Ethos. Learning your path to spiritual maturity and using spiritual principles to solve practical challenges. The empowered ethos is a marathon, not a sprint. It’s doing the hard work to change our lives for the better.
If you think you may hurt yourself or attempt suicide, call a Crisis Counselor, the Suicide Prevention Life Line, or dial 911 immediately.